Resocializing with me?

[TamiKakes]

Hi all.
with my schedule, I am unable to be home super often now and unfortunately I am unable to give Lil Ashlie out of cage time like I did a month ago.
My boyfriend is also not allowing her to be "free" in the house, so there is only one room I can take her (when he is not home)
I am at a point where she won't even let me take her out of the cage. She will let me pet her and she will "groom" me still, but once I try to take her out of her cage, she will cling onto anything around so I cant get her out. When I can get her out, and we go into the "play room" she doesn't really like to leave me.

Is there any way I can "resocialize" with her to get her comfortable to come out of the cage and want the out of cage time?

[stepnstone]

Hi all.
with my schedule, I am unable to be home super often now and unfortunately I am unable to give Lil Ashlie out of cage time like I did a month ago.
My boyfriend is also not allowing her to be "free" in the house, so there is only one room I can take her (when he is not home)
I am at a point where she won't even let me take her out of the cage. She will let me pet her and she will "groom" me still, but once I try to take her out of her cage, she will cling onto anything around so I cant get her out. When I can get her out, and we go into the "play room" she doesn't really like to leave me.

Is there any way I can "resocialize" with her to get her comfortable to come out of the cage and want the out of cage time?

All red flags to me, sorry...
Does he not like her or just not like her loose?
Maybe she has had cause to develop trust issues
and don't trust the energy outside her cage.
Obviously she feels your safe and her cage is her safe zone.

I have a boy now that will come out of the cage every chance he gets except
if the upstairs roommate is down here. You could leave the doors wide open and
he stays put. She's ok with animals, wouldn't hurt them. He just don't like her and
I understand it! She embodies negative energy. I feel it when she's around and
animals are far more sensitive to it then we are.

[TamiKakes]

All red flags to me, sorry...
Does he not like her or just not like her loose?
Maybe she has had cause to develop trust issues
and don't trust the energy outside her cage.
Obviously she feels your safe and her cage is her safe zone.

I have a boy now that will come out of the cage every chance he gets except
if the upstairs roommate is down here. You could leave the doors wide open and
he stays put. She's ok with animals, wouldn't hurt them. He just don't like her and
I understand it! She embodies negative energy. I feel it when she's around and
animals are far more sensitive to it then we are.


He is afraid of the damage she can do to the house. which I understand they can cause MAJOR damage to doors, windowsills, carpet, ect.

Shes in our back enclosed 4 seasons room. She got out of her cage last Friday ( 100% my fault as I didn't latch it all the way) and he got home and text me and was very upset. I had to rush home to get her since she wouldn't go near him or my son-- would run all over the room.

I am the only one who would feed her (he did a few times before her eyes opened) and he will go and talk to her but doesn't really socialize with her past talking to her, so I am her "human"

[Sottinger]

Accepting some home damage is part of caring for these little ones in my opinion. My husband is very particular about our desk, or rather was. I thought he would lose his mind when he saw the damage they’d done. Nibbles even chewed a hole in the cord for his cpap machine. We taped it, and laughed it off and ordered a new one. I agree with Step, I think its quite possible she senses negative feelings from him if he’s that worried over what damage she may do.

[TamiKakes]

Accepting some home damage is part of caring for these little ones in my opinion. My husband is very particular about our desk, or rather was. I thought he would lose his mind when he saw the damage they’d done. Nibbles even chewed a hole in the cord for his cpap machine. We taped it, and laughed it off and ordered a new one. I agree with Step, I think its quite possible she senses negative feelings from him if he’s that worried over what damage she may do.

He is not 100% on board with me overwintering her as is. He was at first but the more he thinks about it the more concerned he gets (doesn't help that all he hears from his coworkers who deal with house damage and the horror stories- and pictures- from a squirrel that get in the attic.

[Sottinger]

I’m sorry Tami. I can imagine this has you in quite a tough spot. My hubby was more like that the first couple weeks as well with Nibbles and I know how stressed it had me. Do you think there’s any chance he’ll warm up to her more? I know Tony is a huge animal lover so I figured he would, I just didn’t expect how much. He now totes the youngest around in his shirt pocket and is telling me she will be his baby. Lol

[TamiKakes]

I’m sorry Tami. I can imagine this has you in quite a tough spot. My hubby was more like that the first couple weeks as well with Nibbles and I know how stressed it had me. Do you think there’s any chance he’ll warm up to her more? I know Tony is a huge animal lover so I figured he would, I just didn’t expect how much. He now totes the youngest around in his shirt pocket and is telling me she will be his baby. Lol

Unfortunately, I don't think so. Each day that passes he's more and more "against" it. He was all about it, and her at first cause she was "helpless" and wouldn't want her to die. I don't think he believes shes as "helpless" anymore.

[stepnstone]

He is not 100% on board with me overwintering her as is. He was at first but the more he thinks about it the more concerned he gets (doesn't help that all he hears from his coworkers who deal with house damage and the horror stories- and pictures- from a squirrel that get in the attic.
I know all about co-workers that feed negativity....
I had an ex that was already apprehensive over us getting together because of
my being a single parent raising a son, her co-workers/ friends fed that apprehension.
She had her apprehension, I have my priorities... Notice I said "had" and "ex" in the
same sentence. Son, squirrel, wouldn't have gone any different. :rolf

[TamiKakes]

I know all about co-workers that feed negativity....
I had an ex that was already apprehensive over us getting together because of
my being a single parent raising a son, her co-workers/ friends fed that apprehension.
She had her apprehension, I have my priorities... Notice I said "had" and "ex" in the
same sentence. Son, squirrel, wouldn't have gone any different. :rolf

Hahahaha. Trust me, I know the feeling and the EX thing. If common law was still a thing in the state of Ohio, we would be legally married, I can honestly see her being the breaking point of our relationship. As much as I love him, I would choose her over him as she still is helpless and I don't trust the local wildlife centers to properly take care of her, if not euthanize her, since I am in a non friendly state.